The birthday reminder app that writes and sends the email.
Calendar alerts and reminder apps tell you a birthday is coming, then leave you to write the message. DontRemember writes a genuinely personal birthday email in your voice and sends it from your own Gmail, automatically, every year, at the right time in their timezone.
Free for one person. Unlimited for $20 a year. No card to start.
Happy birthday to the only person who beats me at FIFA and still complains about rent
Jake,
28. You're old now. Welcome.
Eleven years of FIFA losses and I still think this is the year. Happy birthday, go spend some of that SF rent money on cake.
Dan
Jake's time ✔
Three steps. Then you never
think about it again.
Add a person
Name, email, who they are to you, and a few real facts. "Loves terrible puns." "We met in Napa." Sixty seconds.
We write it
The night before, we draft a note in your voice and tone. You get a heads-up to tweak it, or you don't lift a finger.
It lands from you
8 AM, their timezone, from your Gmail. Replies come straight to you. Nobody ever knows.
Pick a person. Pick a mood. Read what we'd send.
These are real outputs, lightly trimmed. Names changed to protect the forgetful.
Happy birthday to the only person who beats me at FIFA and still complains about rent
28. You're old now. Welcome. Eleven years of FIFA losses and I still think this is the year. Go spend some SF rent money on cake.
- Dan
Every birthday tool remembers the date. Almost none write the email.
The useful question isn't whether you get reminded. It's what happens at 8 AM on the day.
| Calendar & contacts | Reminder apps | DontRemember | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Remembers the date every year | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ |
| Notifies you ahead of time | ✓ | ✓ | ✓ |
| Writes the actual birthday message | — | — | ✓ |
| Sends the email for you | — | — | ✓ |
| Sends from your own address | — | — | ✓ |
| Never repeats last year's message | — | — | ✓ |
| Works for one person, free | Yes | Varies | Yes |
Romantic for her. Roast mode for your brother.
Every person gets their own tone. We never send your mum the joke about the hoodie.
Soft, sincere, a little breathless.
Roasts with love. Ends sweet.
Says the thing you never say out loud.
Small images. Big feelings.
Inside jokes, exclamation marks.
Steady, grateful, no drama.
Three lines. All of them count.
Not a robot. A very organised version of you.
- ✓
From you. Actually you.
We send through your Gmail with your permission. Your name, your address, your sent folder. No "via robot" footers.
- ✓
You always get a heads-up.
The night before, you see the draft. Edit it, swap the tone, or delete it. Or ignore us, it goes out anyway.
- ✓
Your facts stay yours.
The stories you tell us about your people are used only to write to them. Never sold, never trained on, deleted when you leave.
Cheaper than one forgotten anniversary.
forever
- ✓ 1 person, unlimited dates
- ✓ All 7 tones
- ✓ Sent from your Gmail
- ✓ Night-before heads-up
Less than one bouquet. Cancel anytime.
- ✓ Unlimited people and dates
- ✓ Regenerate as often as you like
- ✓ Gift nudges a week before
- ✓ Priority support from actual humans
A birthday and anniversary email scheduler that writes the email too.
For the handful of people you would be in real trouble for forgetting.
Scheduled birthday emails that recur every year
Gmail's schedule send is one-off. DontRemember stores the birthday once and sends a freshly written email every year, so you never re-enter a date or rewrite a message.
Automatic anniversary emails with the right number of years
Add the year you got together and every anniversary email says 'seven years', then 'eight', without you touching it. Romantic, warm, funny or heartfelt, in your words.
Sent from your own Gmail, in their timezone
Emails go out from your address through Google's Gmail API and land at 8 AM where the recipient lives. Replies come straight back to you. Nothing shows a service.
Written from real facts, reviewed by you
You give three small true details per person. The night before, we draft the email and send you a copy. Edit a line, regenerate with a hint, or let it go out as is.
Read the guides: how to schedule a birthday email, automatic anniversary emails, and more on the blog.
Looking for something specific? Birthday reminder app, anniversary reminder app, or emails for your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend.
Questions people ask before they stop forgetting.
Is DontRemember a birthday reminder app?+
It starts as one, every date you add is remembered and you're reminded the night before, but it doesn't stop there. It writes the actual birthday email and sends it from your own Gmail, so remembering the date is only step one.
What's the difference between this and a normal birthday reminder app?+
A typical reminder app gets you to the moment of writing a message with an empty text box and a countdown. DontRemember hands you a finished, personal email instead, written from the facts you gave it, ready to send or already sent.
Do I still get a heads-up before it sends?+
Yes. The night before, we draft the email and send you a copy so you can edit it, regenerate it with a hint, or skip it, exactly like a reminder app's alert, except the message is already written.
Does it really come from my email?+
Yes. You connect Gmail once; we send through it with Google's official API. It shows in your Sent folder like any email you wrote.
Will it sound like me?+
You give us the facts and pick a tone; we write in first person and sign with your name. You can edit any draft the night before.
What if I don't like the draft?+
Hit Regenerate with a hint ("mention the pottery class"), edit it inline, or delete it for that year.
What about time zones?+
Each person has their own. We send at 8 AM their time by default, you can change the hour per date.
Is this creepy?+
It's a reminder that also writes the card. If you'd rather write it yourself, the heads-up email gives you the whole night to do exactly that.
Can I schedule a recurring email every year?+
Yes. Add the date once and it recurs every year. Each year we write a fresh email, so it never repeats last year's message.
Does it work with Outlook or only Gmail?+
Gmail only for now. Sending through your own Gmail is what makes the email come from you rather than from us.